๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ผ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ผ #๐บ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ๐ด๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฎ #๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ. Every #Manager has their own style and methods of dealing with their team members, and It all boils down to what works best for the manager and his team.
My friend’s younger brother Binny was excited to be promoted to the Manager position recently in his company; however, his tone was different when he called me and said, “๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ต๐ฆ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ณ’๐ด ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ฏ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ a ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ต ๐ง๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ฃ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ ๐ข๐ต ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏ’๐ต ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ต๐ฆ๐ข๐ฎ!”
Further, Binny said, “๐๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ช๐ต, ๐ช๐ต ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฌ๐ด ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ด๐ค๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ช๐ต ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ๐ณ. ๐๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด๐ฆ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ข #๐๐ฐ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ. ๐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฏ’๐ต ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต #๐๐ฐ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด๐ฆ๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต; ๐ ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ, ๐๐ช๐ฏ๐ช๐ต.” That wasn’t surprising to me since, according to ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฑ ๐๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐ (#๐๐๐ฅ), “๐ ๐ผ๐๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ป’๐ ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ถ๐.”
I asked Binny, “๐ ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐ฐ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ด๐ฆ๐ต. ๐๐ถ๐ต ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ช๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ง๐ถ๐ญ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ‘๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ’ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ต ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ”โฆand the exploration ensued.
Since this was not just one incident, it triggered a thought in my mind to talk about one practical ‘Coaching trait that a Manager can use’ each weekend. And today, I want to talk about the simplest but one of the most ignored ๐ฐ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด, ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ถ๐ ‘๐๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด’.
The pressure to meet deadlines, and tackle problems can impede effective listening for a manager. So, the first step is making a choice to listen โ to intentionally set aside workplace pressures by choosing to be present so you can listen. ๐ฆ๐๐ผ๐ฝ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐’๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐ด, ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ผ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ป ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ.
Listening is a skill that happens at four levels, as per @Otto Scharmer, Senior Lecturer at #MIT. ๐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ต๐ข๐ช๐ญ๐ด ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ญ๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ญ๐ด here – ๐ฉ๐ต๐ต๐ฑ๐ด://๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ช๐ถ๐ฎ.๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ/@๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐ช๐ต๐ฌ๐ถ๐ฎ๐ข๐ณ๐ด๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ฉ/๐ฅ๐ฐ-๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ-๐ญ๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ-๐ต๐ฐ-๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ-๐ฐ๐ณ-๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ฏ๐ด๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ-๐ฆ๐ค๐ฅ๐ง๐ฃ๐ฅ๐ฉ๐ค๐ฃ๐ซ๐ฉ๐ง
Are you a #Manager?
๐ช๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฏ๐๐ถ๐น๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐บ๐๐๐ฐ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ผ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐ฑ๐ผ ๐ท๐๐๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐บ ๐บ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐: ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป?
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